People fall in love is like watching a movie.
Ed Sheeran said that people fall in love in a mysterious ways.
Actually I wrote this topic as a form of my disgust with my friends who constantly feel insecure about themselves about arranged marriages. They realize that their soul match is not going anywhere, but they continue to feel that no one wants them, just because their friends already have their own partners and they feel that they are still single. I know it makes her worry and feel left out with other people, but we’re still 24 years old OMG! Isn’t it better that we at least focus on ourselves, focus on preparing our mentality because marriage is a lifelong job and in my opinion it’s very hard, and isn’t it better when we feel insecure, closing our eyes for a while to other people’s achievements is a good way to good to look back at ourselves?
And if we are still afraid of our daily life which only works, goes home, sleeps, and works again then we are worried where our soul mate will come from? I told you that everyone is like that my friend, we all have normal boring activities too but at least believe in yourself and do your best on those boring days because we don’t know which side someone will like us from.
We liken ourselves to a film, some people want to watch because the story is good, some want to watch because the actors are beautiful or handsome, some watch because people recommend them, some watch because they like the ost, the motion graphics, the visual designer, or other things and there are even people who don’t want to watch it because it’s not a genre they usually watch. Then there are people who like to watch films only in theaters, there are those who like to watch at home, there are even those who are interested in watching because of the fyp tiktok, ig reels, or just the trailer. We don’t even know with what and where they can enjoy the film, because love comes in a mysterious and absurd way.
Even to the point where people’s illfeel is really very absurd, it’s like someone hates seeing people eating leftovers, not smart, clumsy, body odor, sweaty, childish etc. We don’t know how that person will feel about us in terms of. So the important thing is to focus on ourselves, upgrade ourselves so that we are better than before, not busy looking for what people want and looking for standardization. In the end, we ourselves will be tired and start to be insecure. Feeling that we have tried various ways but we can’t get it, feeling less and less because what other people are chasing, not ourselves. Whereas the key is in ourselves, because in the end that a good standard is to see how we can grow from before, how upgraded we are from before us, because Life is happier if you can know yourself, you will find your peace and then maybe finally you can also accept other people’s strengths and weaknesses, and the partner you hoped for also finally came to you because you are done with yourself and ready to welcome other people who are also done with themselves.
And you think I’m writing this because I feel right? Not at all, I’m also looking for and trying to keep growing and believe in myself amidst the onslaught of people my age who are married. But what I’m focusing on here is don’t feel inferior just because other people have been able to reach the level they have reached while we haven’t reached that level yet, because our timelines are different, the start of our lives is not like the starting line in a competition that has been set the same. even though they are set up the same, their way to get to the finish line is different, they try to show their skills and their own way so they can get to the finish line first. Find your own uniqueness and win the match between you and yourself, because the most difficult enemy is yourself.
Woah I think I wrote it too long, but thank you for reading this :)
