Parental Love Language
It turns out that the longing of parents for their children who are far from home is not because they simply long to meet or expect gifts, but longing to give love. So it’s no wonder when their children come home, they are busy preparing and serving the best food they have ever made.
One day when my mother visited my brother’s house, whose wife had just given birth. So usually, my mother washes the diaper, holds the baby, and does other things, then suddenly one day maybe because my sister-in-law feels reluctant, her husband is asked to wash her baby’s diaper so that my mother doesn’t get tired. However, my mother secretly called me and felt that she was no longer needed.
This is what made me learn that it turns out that all this time the way we ‘retired our parents’ to do nothing is actually to eliminate their existence, role, and love for us.
We as children certainly really want to please our parents, if they can relax at home, just enjoy their old age, no need to bother, just let me. However, it turned out to be offensive and saddened them. Because they feel no longer needed by their children. For them, the hassle of taking care of children is the nature of being a parent.
That is the form of love language parents to their children. Feeling always wanted to be needed and involved in every moment of our maturation. They are tired but happy. What parents fear is the feeling of being neglected and unneeded and the loss of the outpouring of love.
I remember the scene in the Korean drama entitled Reply 1998. In the scene where Jungpal’s family was incompetent at taking care of the household, then Jungpal’s mother went out of town and all family members were trained to be able to do all the housework. Long story short when his mother came home, his mother was sad. Because she saw that her husband and children were good at taking care of the household and her mother felt that she was no longer needed. Then Jungpal saw his mother’s sadness and took the initiative to mess up again at home so that his mother was needed as usual and returned to being cheerful as usual.
This scene taught me that maybe we should tell our parents to do nothing, but involve them in every event. For example, our mother is used to cooking for us, not by telling our mother not to cook anymore, but rather for us to help her wash the dishes, or cut the onions, and chilies or we cook with the direction of our parents. So the role of the mother is still there for us.
Yeah, I mean this case cannot be equated with the cases of other mothers. Maybe your mother is different from me. But here are my parents.
No wonder there is a saying that Parent's love is forever because even if we have a baby, they still treat us like babies.
How about your parents? Glad to know.
